Different Mind, Different Act

Most people know that men and women are pretty different, therefore some say that men and women are like two different creatures who come from different places in outer space.  The differences between men and women make then have very unique relationship. There are always some problems in their relationship that we won’t find in other relationships. Whether we realize or not, most of conflict between men and women, in their relationship, are cause by their different mind that make them have different act.

Even though women’s and men’s brains have the same structure and mechanism, biologically men’s and women’s brain have dissimilarity. Both of their brains have corpus callosum, special nerve that connects the right and left hemisphere, but, according the book Why Mars and Venus Collide that’s written by John Gray, it’s different in quantity. Men have very few corpus callosum in their brain, with a result it’s hard for them to join their feeling and their logic. On the other hand, women have nuch more corpus callosum in their brain, it’s about four times of men’s. The quantity of corpus callosum women have make them easier to join their feeling and their logic and make the more talk active than men. Beside the different of quantity of corpus callosum, their their inferior parietal lobule (IPL), part of brain that is located around behind the ears, develops differently. In general men’s left IPL develops better than the right one that why men think more mathematically and logically than women.  In contrast, women’s right develops more than the left one that makes them have deep feeling and good responses to their senses. If men can easily follow the football match on TV, it’s more easily for women to other’s or their feeling and imagination that’s not as real as the football match.

Their different brains make then have different ways in giving responses to their stress. Basically men and women may get stress at the same problem or condition, but in general they have their own way to decrease their stress. When a problem gives men pressure, men will focus their mind and energy to solve the problem. For many times, as John Gray said in Men Are from Mars and Women Are from Venus, men need take a break, they will forget the problem for a while by focusing their mind on the other things such watching TV or doing their hobbies, to reduce their stress while trying solve the problem. Then they will be better when they have to come back to the problem. However, women need to talk about or share their problem to their friends or someone. While women are getting stress they will be so busy in joining the problem to th other things to reduce their stress and find out the solution. Although they have different way in reducing stress, basically they have the same purpose; reducing the stress and finding out the solution.</div>

Another difference between men and women is their basic characteristic. Men, who think more mathematically than women, have better capability in calculating time or space than women. Beside that they are more independent, aggressive, and dominant. They love doing something that makes them needed and doing something that make the feel succeed. Like men, women love being needed and successful. However, they want it in different way. Women are created to love and care, they have very good capability in making relation, giving sympathy to others, expression, and language. Women's special capability makes then generally have more relations than men.

Knowing the differences between men and women, we cannot say one is better than the other. Furthermore, we should realize the differences between men and women are the things that make them so special and interesting. Their different developed brains, different in giving responses to the stress, different way to decrease their stress, or their different characteristic make them as like they are created to complete each other.